With weddings, we know there are no do-overs. That’s what makes being a wedding planner and part of the wedding industry in general challenging. There’s a lot at stake for your client’s wedding–and you want to make sure you get it right. But with that responsibility, you’ll find yourself dealing with wedding planning stress. Inside this article, I want to share some tools to manage your wedding planning stress, especially during your wedding season.
I was a wedding planner for over 12-years, and during my time working with clients, I’ve faced every stressful situation imaginable. Perhaps the most challenging part about being a wedding planner is knowing that everything is *not* within your control… but you feel a personal responsibility to help, manage, and fix all of it.
How do you manage wedding planning stress? Whether you’re on the ground at an event or dealing with an unforeseen issue in the planning process… Let’s talk about it.
Beat Wedding Planner Stress by Changing Your Soundtrack
When we’re stressing about something, it’s easy to let that stress consume our thoughts. Whether you’re dealing with a client issue or a problem that needs handling, a soundtrack can quickly emerge inside your head–and it’s all you can think about.
Those thoughts come roaring through your mind. Thoughts like…
“What am I going to do next?”
“Is my client going to be pissed? What if they blame me for this?”
“How can I solve this problem?”
Your thoughts can quickly spiral out of control when you’re stressed. Instead of letting your anxiety and stress consume you, change your soundtrack. Find a way to focus on something else for a while. Load up your favorite podcast, listen to music, or read something uplifting. I love going for a workout when I’m feeling stressed or when my thoughts are getting the best of me.
Switch up your environment and change your soundtrack. Then, come back with a fresh perspective.
Call On Past Experiences To Combat Wedding Planner Stress
This isn’t your first rodeo, even if it is your first wedding.
You’ve been here before. It doesn’t feel like it, but you have. And that’s because you’ve done hard things in your life–and you will do them again. Take a moment and remember the last time you dealt with a tricky situation. You’re still here, right? Right.
When wedding planning stress hits, remember that you’re a boss who’s handled things in the past. You figured it out, moved past it, and have lived to tell the tail.
Combat Wedding Planner Stress By Finding Your Gratitude
This might sound hokey, but it works. Take five minutes to write down what you’re grateful for today. List out all the good things in your life and your career that bring you happiness. Finding your gratitude can help you see the bigger picture.
In moments of stress or as the anxiety of your job builds, gratitude for the good will always keep you ground. It helped me in some of the most stressful situations I’ve ever experienced, and I know it’ll help you.
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Come and join us inside The Planner’s Playbook! Inside my coaching community for wedding planners, you’ll find all the training, support, guidance, and community you need to tackle whatever wedding season throws your way.
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If you’re sitting on a sales call running through your bullet point list of what’s in each package, congratulations. You just signaled to a luxury couple that you’re not the right fit for them.
Luxury clients are not shopping for “20 hours of planning” or “30 free belly bands” or “500 edited images.”
They’re shopping for the version of their wedding that only you can pull off.
They want to know what you’ll DO. How you think. What you’ve handled. Where you’d push back.
If they wanted features, they’d go to The Knot and filter by price.
They’re talking to you because they want a person with a point of view.
So the next time you’re on a consultation with a luxury buyer, give them one.
If you’re interested in learning more about how luxury buyers think, check out episode 209 of my podcast — or comment “209” and I’ll DM you the link!
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Nobody is coming to choose you or your business.
I said this to a student last month who had been in the business for years. Her process was dialed in. She had weddings on the books. But the work she was getting didn’t reflect what she was actually capable of, and she’d been waiting for the right client to come along and finally give her the chance to prove it.
That’s not how it works.
If you want to be booked for the work you actually want to do, you have to start showing it. Styled shoots. Venue tour reels. A post that says “manifesting this venue for my next dream couple.”
If you sit around and wait for a dream client to pick you so that you can prove what you’re capable of, you’re going to be waiting around a long time.
On the flip side…
Another client told me how she pivoted out of the $70K weddings she didn’t want by telling two prospective clients their budget was actually going to be $120K.
Both signed.
She didn’t wait for permission. She decided. She chose.
I want you to do the same.
What’s one thing you could post this week that shows the work you want to be hired for — not the work you currently have?
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