With weddings, we know there are no do-overs. That’s what makes being a wedding planner and part of the wedding industry in general challenging. There’s a lot at stake for your client’s wedding–and you want to make sure you get it right. But with that responsibility, you’ll find yourself dealing with wedding planning stress. Inside this article, I want to share some tools to manage your wedding planning stress, especially during your wedding season.
I was a wedding planner for over 12-years, and during my time working with clients, I’ve faced every stressful situation imaginable. Perhaps the most challenging part about being a wedding planner is knowing that everything is *not* within your control… but you feel a personal responsibility to help, manage, and fix all of it.
How do you manage wedding planning stress? Whether you’re on the ground at an event or dealing with an unforeseen issue in the planning process… Let’s talk about it.
Beat Wedding Planner Stress by Changing Your Soundtrack
When we’re stressing about something, it’s easy to let that stress consume our thoughts. Whether you’re dealing with a client issue or a problem that needs handling, a soundtrack can quickly emerge inside your head–and it’s all you can think about.
Those thoughts come roaring through your mind. Thoughts like…
“What am I going to do next?”
“Is my client going to be pissed? What if they blame me for this?”
“How can I solve this problem?”
Your thoughts can quickly spiral out of control when you’re stressed. Instead of letting your anxiety and stress consume you, change your soundtrack. Find a way to focus on something else for a while. Load up your favorite podcast, listen to music, or read something uplifting. I love going for a workout when I’m feeling stressed or when my thoughts are getting the best of me.
Switch up your environment and change your soundtrack. Then, come back with a fresh perspective.
Call On Past Experiences To Combat Wedding Planner Stress
This isn’t your first rodeo, even if it is your first wedding.
You’ve been here before. It doesn’t feel like it, but you have. And that’s because you’ve done hard things in your life–and you will do them again. Take a moment and remember the last time you dealt with a tricky situation. You’re still here, right? Right.
When wedding planning stress hits, remember that you’re a boss who’s handled things in the past. You figured it out, moved past it, and have lived to tell the tail.
Combat Wedding Planner Stress By Finding Your Gratitude
This might sound hokey, but it works. Take five minutes to write down what you’re grateful for today. List out all the good things in your life and your career that bring you happiness. Finding your gratitude can help you see the bigger picture.
In moments of stress or as the anxiety of your job builds, gratitude for the good will always keep you ground. It helped me in some of the most stressful situations I’ve ever experienced, and I know it’ll help you.
Hold up – are you looking for some extra support to combat the wedding season craziness and stress?
Come and join us inside The Planner’s Playbook! Inside my coaching community for wedding planners, you’ll find all the training, support, guidance, and community you need to tackle whatever wedding season throws your way.
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Last month I hosted my mastermind retreat for women in the wedding industry in a very special place: my home!
I got the guts to do this last Spring after reading a book by @oliverburkeman_ called Meditations for Mortals (a book so important I actually gifted it to all the attendees!).
There’s a phrase in the book that became my inspo for this retreat, and it’s called scruffy hospitality.
The gist: don’t wait until your house is perfect to invite people in. If you wait that long, you’ll never invite anyone in.
I knew that having the women I coach 1:1 in my home for a week to talk about business, share meals, drinks, learn, and laugh would be more meaningful than a fancy hotel or conference room.
And that’s because something special happens when we are invited into another persons sacred space. We feel a deeper connection to them and ourselves.
The whole book is structured around the idea that perfectionism is the thing stopping most of us from actually doing the work that matters.
Waiting for the house to be perfect before you have anyone over for dinner is just one flavor of it.
On the podcast, I shared more about the retreat and the story of why I host it here — episode 202 if you’re interested.
It got me thinking about YOU and what you might be delaying in your life or business because it’s not perfect yet.
Many of us are waiting for the business to be perfect, the website to be perfect, the portfolio to be perfect before we invite people in.
But what if you’re meant to invite people in now, when things (and you) are not perfect? What would that change for you, and what opportunities could you receive because of it?
Xo,
C
Photography by @c10ike 💜💜💜
WHAT a week. WHAT a group. WHAT a privilege.
The WPI Spring Retreat 2026 in Barbados is officially in the books and I’m still floating!! Five days of strategy, sun, sisterhood, and entirely too many beautiful conversations with seventeen women who I am wildly, ridiculously lucky to coach.
When you become a coach, nobody tells you that the cup goes both ways.
I poured into them all week, and they poured right back into me.
I learned something from every single one of them. About leadership. About refinement. About what it looks like to build a business and a life on your own terms without flinching.
I am more convinced than ever that this is my purpose. Being a guide for women who are writing their own stories is the work I was made for and I feel SO grateful that I get to do this.
If you’ve been craving a community of women who actually GET what you’re building, come talk to me. WPI is the room I wish I had at every stage of my career, and the door is open.
And if you’re the one building a room for others, please keep building. The women who need you are out there. Make a seat for them.
To my WPI clients: I love you. Thank you for one of the best weeks of my life!
Not pictured: @c10ike, the most amazing friend and our official retreat photographer! 💜💜💜
Tax man loves to see us coming 😂
but seriously, is there nothing better than having a business that affords you the opportunity to travel to new places, experience new things, and meet new people?
Just a few days left until our next mastermind retreat kicks off at my home in Barbados! 🙌🏼
Will we see you at the next one?!
Photography @c10ike
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