With weddings, we know there are no do-overs. That’s what makes being a wedding planner and part of the wedding industry in general challenging. There’s a lot at stake for your client’s wedding–and you want to make sure you get it right. But with that responsibility, you’ll find yourself dealing with wedding planning stress. Inside this article, I want to share some tools to manage your wedding planning stress, especially during your wedding season.
I was a wedding planner for over 12-years, and during my time working with clients, I’ve faced every stressful situation imaginable. Perhaps the most challenging part about being a wedding planner is knowing that everything is *not* within your control… but you feel a personal responsibility to help, manage, and fix all of it.
How do you manage wedding planning stress? Whether you’re on the ground at an event or dealing with an unforeseen issue in the planning process… Let’s talk about it.
Beat Wedding Planner Stress by Changing Your Soundtrack
When we’re stressing about something, it’s easy to let that stress consume our thoughts. Whether you’re dealing with a client issue or a problem that needs handling, a soundtrack can quickly emerge inside your head–and it’s all you can think about.
Those thoughts come roaring through your mind. Thoughts like…
“What am I going to do next?”
“Is my client going to be pissed? What if they blame me for this?”
“How can I solve this problem?”
Your thoughts can quickly spiral out of control when you’re stressed. Instead of letting your anxiety and stress consume you, change your soundtrack. Find a way to focus on something else for a while. Load up your favorite podcast, listen to music, or read something uplifting. I love going for a workout when I’m feeling stressed or when my thoughts are getting the best of me.
Switch up your environment and change your soundtrack. Then, come back with a fresh perspective.
Call On Past Experiences To Combat Wedding Planner Stress
This isn’t your first rodeo, even if it is your first wedding.
You’ve been here before. It doesn’t feel like it, but you have. And that’s because you’ve done hard things in your life–and you will do them again. Take a moment and remember the last time you dealt with a tricky situation. You’re still here, right? Right.
When wedding planning stress hits, remember that you’re a boss who’s handled things in the past. You figured it out, moved past it, and have lived to tell the tail.
Combat Wedding Planner Stress By Finding Your Gratitude
This might sound hokey, but it works. Take five minutes to write down what you’re grateful for today. List out all the good things in your life and your career that bring you happiness. Finding your gratitude can help you see the bigger picture.
In moments of stress or as the anxiety of your job builds, gratitude for the good will always keep you ground. It helped me in some of the most stressful situations I’ve ever experienced, and I know it’ll help you.
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What makes YOU different?
The goal isn’t to be different for the sake of being different. It’s to stop sanding down the parts of your business that actually give people a reason to choose you.
Your opinions. Your taste. Your process. The things you believe should be done differently. The things your clients consistently appreciate about you. Your creative point of view.
Those things might feel completely ordinary to you because you live with them every day. But they’re often exactly where your positioning lives.
So if you’re struggling to answer the question, “What makes me different?” stop looking for something to invent.
Start looking for what you’ve been editing out.
It’s Friday Introductions, but today I’m not introducing myself. I want to introduce you to my friend @marthabitar!
Martha is the co-founder of @flodesk, the founder of @buildwithstencil, and someone I have admired for a very long time. But over the last four months, I’ve had the opportunity to build Cue alongside her and see her brilliance in action—and I have learned more about business, building, leadership, and what’s actually possible than I could ever fit into an Instagram caption.
But what I admire most about her has very little to do with what she has built! She is one of the most generous people I have ever met. And I don’t just mean with her time, knowledge, or resources. Martha builds for generosity. She thinks about what she can give people, what she can unlock for them, and how she can make them feel like they, too, are larger than life.
She also might disagree with me on this, but Martha is fearless.
I have brought her ideas that felt enormous. I’ve watched other women bring her ideas that felt almost impossible. And I have never once heard Martha say, “No, we can’t do that.”
Instead, it’s: Anything is possible. Yes, let’s build that. Yes, let’s do that. Of course we can do that. Let’s figure out how.
And when you spend enough time around someone who believes that way, something starts to change in you, too. Things you thought were too big start to feel buildable. Things you thought were reserved for other people start to feel available to you. You start challenging the status quo, building things you never thought you were capable of building, and becoming more of the person you always knew you were.
Martha has done that for me. And I’ve watched her do it for so many other women over these last four months.
She cares deeply about people. She believes in people. She makes people feel capable. And somehow, while building enormous things of her own, she still makes room to help other people build theirs.
Everybody needs a Martha in their corner.
I feel incredibly lucky to have this Martha in mine.
And now I’m crying. So, happy Friday!!!
What’s the best wedding planning software out there?
This is question I’ve been asked at least 10x a week for the last 10 years— and I never had an answer— because most planning software sucks.
So, after all these years of not having the right place to point people, I decided to do something about it.
In just a few weeks you’ll get the chance to already join the 100 planners who are using my new software, Cue! I can’t wait for you to see what we built!
Comment CUEWAITLIST below and I’ll send you the link to grab your spot in line!
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