Today, I want to help you become a better copywriter for your wedding business, but first, I want to ask you a question. If businesses exist to solve their customer’s problems and give them something of value, my question to you is: what problems do you solve for your clients, and what do they value?
This is NOT an easy question to answer for most entrepreneurs. Sometimes I STILL wrestle with this, and I’ve been in business for 13 years. Today, I’m going to share a few tips and tricks on how to data mine for your business, which will help you get inside your customer’s head and become a better copywriter for your wedding business.
Feel like you might be too experienced for this? Maybe you’ve been a wedding planner for five or ten years, and you feel like you really do know your customers. Here’s what I want to say to you: The Achilles heel of seasoned business owners is not adapting to the needs of their customers. Today’s post is for you too!

First, What is Data Mining?
Simply put, data mining is using tools to research your ideal clients so you can uncover information and patterns about who they are, what they value, and what their problems are.
Data mining is important because it helps you gain a better understanding of your target market and its needs. You can use the insights from data mining to create more effective marketing strategies, improve customer relations, and increase sales.
Here are 5 strategies to help you get started with data mining to help you figure out what wedding couples want in 2024.
#1 Survey Your Audience and Customers
How can you survey your audience to learn more about them? Surveying your audience is a quick and easy way to get clear information about what’s happening in their lives right now (and learn more about what wedding couples want in 2024). You can deploy a survey to your email list, or you can use your Instagram stories and ask questions. This strategy is quick and easy to implement, so I often encourage wedding pros to start here first!
Here are the 3 places to get started when surveying your audience:
- Send out a general survey to get a pulse on your audience at ANY time
- After a launch of a new product or service, reach out with a post-launch survey to learn why they didn’t buy.
- Schedule brief 1-to-1 interviews with customers to ask questions and get feedback.
I include actual DFY swipe files for your own data mining campaign inside the client cocktail if you want to make this even easier!
#2 Dig Into Your Recent Client Testimonials
Testimonials are one of the most UNDERRATED places to figure out what wedding couples want in 2024. Seriously.
Think about the last positive review you left for a company or product…
When a customer writes a testimonial, they often mention what they valued the most about you and how you solved their problems. The reviews are likely not just glowing reviews about how amazing and awesome you are, but they’re also telling you either overtly or covertly, what problems you solved and what they valued most about what you did for them.
Need to start collecting client testimonials more consistently?
I break this down further in my offboarding playbook, but here’s what I want you to do right now:
- Create a system to capture testimonials and start asking KEY questions (an example from the swipe files included in the client cocktail is “What were you struggling with when it came to finding a [insert your craft] for your wedding?”).
- Revisit thank you notes, emails, 1-on-1 conversations and Google reviews. Look for patterns and anything that might indicate what problems they had and what they valued before hiring you.
- Schedule post-mortem meetings and interview your clients as part of your onboarding process from now on!
Look for patterns and trends! What keeps coming up?

Can’t I just ask them to leave a Google Review?
While Google reviews are GREAT (and you should definitely keep asking for them!), they don’t paint a full story. Your customers are just left to their whim. Using a form instead helps to frame up the testimonials that you’re asking for so you can get the information you need to continue to be curious about your customers and adapt to their changing problems and values. Read between the lines – the problem you solved is NOT always what you think!
#3 Review Recent Inquiries from Ideal Clients
What do past inquiries through emails, phone calls, and form submissions reveal about future customers?
I want you to think back to the last inquiry you made to someone else’s business. Maybe you were hiring a brand designer, a copywriter, or even a business coach like me.
When someone reaches out about your services, they’re literally asking you, are you the answer to my problem and do you value what I value? They’re probably not asking you this exact question, but when you read between the lines, that’s often what you’ll find.
Go look back at the last time you inquired about someone’s product or service in this way, and you will see that you framed up your language to be asking this question too. Your customers are doing the same.
2 Steps to Find Out What Wedding Couples Want in 2024
- Add a questionnaire to your sales funnel and start asking some key questions. Again, if you want my exact swipe files I include them for you here. This step is as easy as adding 1-2 questions to your contact form!
- Next, I want you to systematize your sales process to keep track of emerging patterns, language, and questions. Go back to email exchanges that you’ve had with your ideal customers (both the ones who booked and the ones who sent that dreaded “we went in a different direction”. Pull direct quotes from these emails and add them into your data mining document.
As you start to collect more data, make sure to keep looking for patterns, trends, language, and questions. Get curious. Every pattern tells you something more about your ideal customers (and may help you identify what wedding couples want in 2024 or 2025 so you can adjust your marketing/sales strategy accordingly).
As you gain more and more insight into questions your customers might have, start to include those answers in places like your first email to a new inquiry, talk about it on your social media, put it in your FAQ section, or even write a whole blog post about it. Trust me – this will ultimately have them look at YOU like the expert thinking “She’s in my head!”.
#4 Hang Out Where They Congregate
Your ideal customers often get together to ask questions, share experiences, and find support in their communities. Especially if your ideal clients are millennials or Gen Z, right? The fourth place to find out more about what wedding couples want in 2024 is by hanging out in places where they congregate.
I know what you’re thinking: ugh, please don’t tell me I need to get into Facebook groups.
And the answer to that is, it depends. Are your ideal clients in Facebook groups? They ARE an easy place to collect data though.
If you believe your ideal clients are not in Facebook groups, we may have to search a little harder. What questions keep coming up in your inbox or DM’s? Or, what comments are your ideal clients leaving on your account (or other accounts that are booking your same ideal client)? What questions are they asking? There’s a little more legwork with this strategy, but it’s just as effective.
And speaking of looking at your competitors or complimentary vendors’ accounts, let’s talk about my last strategy to data mine for your business…
#5 Reach Out to Your Friendors and Ask Questions About Their Customers
Valuable insights can come from within your own community. If you are feeling a little overwhelmed (but equally excited to get started), I recommend you start with this strategy in your quest to find out what your wedding couples want in 2024. Talking to friendors can be a great way to start data mining for your business.
3 Steps for Data Mining with a Friendor
- Set up a call to chat with one of your trusted friendors to discuss your ideal client avatars.
- Ask them about patterns that THEY have been noticing and whether they are spotted any new problems that couples are coming to them with.
- Brainstorm solutions and new ways forward to elevate BOTH of your businesses. Remember to be just as generous, if not MORE generous, with them too!
As information starts to come in, remember to keep compiling everything into a master document you can refer back to often to search for patterns and update your messaging in a way that makes future couples feel like you are inside their head, and that YOU know exactly what wedding couples want in 2024 (and can help them get it!).

Ready to Become Your Client’s BFF And Give Them That “She’s In My Head” Feeling?
Listen – these five steps are tried and true, but if you want a step-by-step guide with a swipe file that shows you exactly what to do, you’ve go to grab the Client Cocktail. I know I’ve teased it a few times, but the swipe files and Client BFF masterclass are just part of the BONUSES. If you are ready to stop booking “anyone” and start calling in dream clients, your messaging plays a BIG part in doing just that. Grab my 4 part ideal client cocktail system and start calling in those magazine-worthy weddings today! I will be cheering you on as you do!
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Today I got to share Cue with my DI mastermind, and I’m feeling really proud. 🥹
I’ve been so busy building it that it felt good to stop for a minute and share the story with a room full of people I love and admire. So many smart, talented, generous people who I’m lucky to call my friends.
This was a special one. ❤️
Would you guys like to hear what I shared? I’m thinking about breaking it down into a series here on Instagram. Should we do it?
@ninelemonsfengshui encouraged me to share it with you all here, and I think I should. LMK in the comments if you’d be interested in my presentation from today!
Day one in Charleston for the DI Mastermind, and I spent ten hours of it in my hotel room working on Cue. I’ve been at it since 7 a.m., trying to get client portals ready, and I didn’t get as far as I’d hoped.
But I did close my laptop long enough to hug some of my mastermind friends, catch up before sessions start tomorrow, and see this.
I’d love to tell you this sunset inspired some profound revelation, but mostly I think I needed to leave my fucking room. 😂
Although maybe that’s the reminder: there will always be something that needs more of me. I’m allowed to step outside and enjoy where I am before everything is finished.
And so are you! 💜
I’ve been doing brand shoots for almost 20 years, and I have opinions 😂 Here are 9 things that make them great:
1. Hire a photographer who specializes in brand shoots. There’s a big difference in quality when you work with someone who understands how to photograph you AND your business. Go with the best you can afford.
2. Book more time than you think you need. An hour is nice for headshots, but multiple outfits and scenes take hours. If you want lots of variety, give yourself time to create it. If you’re going to do it, go big and do it right.
3. Know how you’ll use the photos. Your website, social media, launches, presentations—tell your photographer what you need. Plan for different crops, orientations, and room for text.
4. Have a creative direction. Build a mood board so everyone understands the vibe. Think about the story you want the photos to tell before you show up.
5. Dress for where your brand is going. This is your chance to show up as the version of yourself you’re stepping into. Bring outfits that make you feel like her.
6. Get your photographer involved in the planning. Ask for their input on locations, outfits, lighting, and timing. You hired an expert—let them help shape the shoot.
7. Plan actual scenes. Hosting, teaching, designing, creating—what are you doing in the photos? Build moments around your work so you leave with more than portraits.
8. Don’t spend the entire shoot behind a laptop. Your business has more personality than that. Give people something interesting to look at.
9. Bring someone to help. Someone to handle outfits, fix your hair, catch a twisted necklace, and keep things moving. Those extra hands make a difference.
Which photo from @c10ike is your favorite?
Off to spend a week in Charleston (my first time!) for @juliecchenell Digital Insiders Mastermind. I absolutely love getting to spend a week with my colleagues and business friends.
We share meals and ideas and laughs and horror stories and wins and it’s truly the best thing ever. If you’re not already in a mastermind group for your business that allows you to get together once or twice a year, I HIGHLY recommend it! I always leave these events feeling inspired and motivated.
This year I get to share with the group my journey in building @planwithcue and I’m both excited and nervous to share what I’ve been working on. Wish me luck!
To my DI crew I can’t wait to see you soon!!!!!!!
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