You’re probably wondering how to book MORE weddings in your wedding industry business. But not just any kind of weddings or clients. You want to book the *right* clients–the kind of customers who appreciate your work and have the money to back it up. Not only that, you want to know how to get high-end wedding clients because you’re ready to upgrade your customers and grow your business to the next level.
But how do you book better weddings and how do you get high-end wedding clients?
First, we have to talk about why you’re attracting the WRONG people.

There are lots of reasons why you might be attracting the wrong people. I help wedding pros build a profitable business with purpose–and over the last 8 years of coaching wedding industry creatives–I’ve discovered the number one reason why they’re not attracting high-end clients.
Want to know the reason why?
It’s because they’re stuck trying to appeal to everyone.
I’m willing to bet that you’re doing the same.
Hear me out: if you want to book better, high-end wedding clients… you need to pick a lane. But before you do that, we need to have a little heart-to-heart about your scarcity mindset, because *THAT’S* what’s holding you back from booking the high-end clients you want (and deserve!).
WTF is a “scarcity mindset”?
A scarcity mindset is a belief that you will never have enough of something. And in this case, we’re talking about clients and money. When you operate from a scarcity mindset, you believe that you have to take *this* job because you don’t believe there’s enough work for you to say NO.
Yeah, YOU are not willing to say NO.
And instead, you’re saying yes to whoever contacts you because you’re scared that there isn’t enough business out there for you. You deserve to have wedding couples who value the work you do and are willing to pay top dollar for it. In fact, you could be booking them right now— but the problem is, you’re not willing to say no.

If you’re just getting started, you might believe that you *have* to take these less than ideal customers (because that’s how everyone starts, right?! WRONG.)
Or if you’re a few years into your business, you’ve amassed a portfolio of less ideal clients… and now it’s all you can attract (even when you try to *pretty up* their wedding in your galleries by strategically leaving OUT that ugly centerpiece their aunt made).
If you’re operating from scarcity right now, saying YES to people you KNOW you shouldn’t be working with, then your first step to book better, high-end weddings is to start saying no to work that doesn’t serve you.
How do you book better weddings?
The first step is saying no to bad weddings and getting rid of your scarcity mindset. If you want to book better weddings, you need to start saying no to the customers who don’t align with where your business is going. It’s hurting your business, your creativity, and your bank account.
There was *ONE* time in my career where I knew I should say no, but I said yes to a shitty client. I wanted the money (I have expensive taste in handbags) and I paid dearly for it.
That bride almost broke me. But I learned a valuable lesson.
First off, not all money is good money. Just because a check cashes doesn’t mean it’s good… And then second, if I wanted to *NEVER* work with a client like her again, I needed to fix my mindset. You gotta do the same.
Listen— saying no is scary. Waving goodbye to the only kind of clients you’ve ever worked with on a hope and prayer you’ll hook higher-end clients is terrifying (raising your price is pretty damn scary too, but we’ll get to that another time).
But if you’re going to continue to say yes to weddings..
- at less than ideal locations…
- that have a shit ton of headaches and BS…
- with clients who can barely afford the wedding they’re having…
- so they ask their aunt to do the flowers (and btw, they look like shit)
- and they’re begging for discounts like you’re a charity…
Then you’re going to keep attracting those same clients.
Shitty clients are like magnets for more shitty clients.
Round and around we go— in a cycle of less than ideal customers whose weddings in your portfolio attract the same kinds of customers. Over and over again.
Here’s the good news. You can make a change (like I did) and start saying NO to work you don’t want to do anymore.
Stop operating from scarcity, making broke decisions because you don’t believe there is enough for you.
And instead, step into the belief that there are good clients out there. Heck, there are freaking GREAT clients out there— and they’re waiting for you to step up and start talking to them.

How do you get high-end customers?
All right, by now you know that you need to stop with the belief that there are not enough high-end, dope wedding clients out there for you.
So if you want the kinda clients who…
- Get married at venues and locations you’ve always dreamed of working at
- Have a budget that can afford all the trimmings
- Pick up the bar tab (and then some).
- Value your work and expertise because they KNOW they hired the best
- Have weddings that are so dang pretty, magazines are calling *YOU* to feature it
- Are so good they’re actually freaking nice (and they respect your boundaries)
- Make you the talk of the town, tell all their friends aboutcha, and leave five star reviews…
… then you have to start saying no to the old clients, so you can welcome in the good.
But how do we welcome in the good clients?!
It’s simple (but also challenging at the same time – because isn’t that a metaphor for life?!)…

You need to know who you are talking to. Yes, you need to sit down and map out who these high-end, ideal clients are. Things like what they…
- Desire most when it comes to their wedding
- Worry about when it comes to their wedding
- Really want from a wedding pro like you
- Value most when it comes to their wedding experience
Their desires, worries, problems, and values are going to be DIFFERENT from the clients you’re serving right now (and we’ve established that we’re kicking those customers to the curb).
If you’re serious about wanting to upgrade your clients— I’ve got a little something up my sleeve to help.
You need to check out The Client Cocktail. It’s the recipe you’ve been waiting for to attract, sell, and serve more of the *right* people.
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Today I got to share Cue with my DI mastermind, and I’m feeling really proud. 🥹
I’ve been so busy building it that it felt good to stop for a minute and share the story with a room full of people I love and admire. So many smart, talented, generous people who I’m lucky to call my friends.
This was a special one. ❤️
Would you guys like to hear what I shared? I’m thinking about breaking it down into a series here on Instagram. Should we do it?
@ninelemonsfengshui encouraged me to share it with you all here, and I think I should. LMK in the comments if you’d be interested in my presentation from today!
Day one in Charleston for the DI Mastermind, and I spent ten hours of it in my hotel room working on Cue. I’ve been at it since 7 a.m., trying to get client portals ready, and I didn’t get as far as I’d hoped.
But I did close my laptop long enough to hug some of my mastermind friends, catch up before sessions start tomorrow, and see this.
I’d love to tell you this sunset inspired some profound revelation, but mostly I think I needed to leave my fucking room. 😂
Although maybe that’s the reminder: there will always be something that needs more of me. I’m allowed to step outside and enjoy where I am before everything is finished.
And so are you! 💜
I’ve been doing brand shoots for almost 20 years, and I have opinions 😂 Here are 9 things that make them great:
1. Hire a photographer who specializes in brand shoots. There’s a big difference in quality when you work with someone who understands how to photograph you AND your business. Go with the best you can afford.
2. Book more time than you think you need. An hour is nice for headshots, but multiple outfits and scenes take hours. If you want lots of variety, give yourself time to create it. If you’re going to do it, go big and do it right.
3. Know how you’ll use the photos. Your website, social media, launches, presentations—tell your photographer what you need. Plan for different crops, orientations, and room for text.
4. Have a creative direction. Build a mood board so everyone understands the vibe. Think about the story you want the photos to tell before you show up.
5. Dress for where your brand is going. This is your chance to show up as the version of yourself you’re stepping into. Bring outfits that make you feel like her.
6. Get your photographer involved in the planning. Ask for their input on locations, outfits, lighting, and timing. You hired an expert—let them help shape the shoot.
7. Plan actual scenes. Hosting, teaching, designing, creating—what are you doing in the photos? Build moments around your work so you leave with more than portraits.
8. Don’t spend the entire shoot behind a laptop. Your business has more personality than that. Give people something interesting to look at.
9. Bring someone to help. Someone to handle outfits, fix your hair, catch a twisted necklace, and keep things moving. Those extra hands make a difference.
Which photo from @c10ike is your favorite?
Off to spend a week in Charleston (my first time!) for @juliecchenell Digital Insiders Mastermind. I absolutely love getting to spend a week with my colleagues and business friends.
We share meals and ideas and laughs and horror stories and wins and it’s truly the best thing ever. If you’re not already in a mastermind group for your business that allows you to get together once or twice a year, I HIGHLY recommend it! I always leave these events feeling inspired and motivated.
This year I get to share with the group my journey in building @planwithcue and I’m both excited and nervous to share what I’ve been working on. Wish me luck!
To my DI crew I can’t wait to see you soon!!!!!!!
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